How To Get My Mom To Stop Smoking Please Please Help!!?
okay my mom is a smoker, and i believe she smoked b4 she was pregnant with me, but stopped for the pregnancy, but then after i think she started to smoke again, and thts been awhile, and she told us that her new year resolution was to quit smoking… but she didnt sttop, and i told her tht we can get through it together u just need to stop, u no wht could happen, and she just nodds her head, and she still does it? idk what to do! i dont want to see her have lung cancer and die, and haeve her in my life for a short amount of time, please if anyone has advice for trying to get my mom to stop smoking, shes in he forties
November 6th, 2009 at 10:48 pm
My grandparents are 88 and 83 and have been smoking for over 60 years, with no signs of quitting. They are healthier than most non smokers in their 50’s.
Paranoia is more harmful than someone smoking. Paranoid schizophrenics can seriously injure people at one quick snap.
November 7th, 2009 at 12:42 am
First of all you have to try and find out why she is smoking, most of the time there is a reason people smoke, stress, family, friends, work, etc. After that it will easier to help but it’s still up to the person to stop. Good luck laterz
November 7th, 2009 at 6:29 am
ask her to go to her doctor to try and help her out.
try setting up a contest, tell her that if you break a certain bad habit that she has to cut down that much more on smoking and vice versa
my friends have set up these contest/challenges for their parents and they have been very effective mainly becuase they have a competitive nature. hope this helps
November 7th, 2009 at 7:51 am
i have the same problem with my mom, im sorry to break it to you but the only person that can get her to quite is her and if she wants too then have her smoke less and less and then when she is barely smoking as much as she used to then start hiding her cig’s
November 7th, 2009 at 12:37 pm
When I was seven I went up to my while she was outside smoking
These were my exact words.
“Mommy I don’t want you to die”
She quit that summer.
Good luck
I know it made me and her a lot happier and our relationship grew stronger when she stopped
November 7th, 2009 at 6:51 pm
Give her an ultimatum, but she will want to quit after that, you can’t change anyone just yourself. So tell her to quit or xyz will happen. Put her feet to the fire!
November 7th, 2009 at 8:30 pm
One thing about quitting smoking or making any change like that–it’s HARD. I quit tobacco myself a few years back and it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done and I still miss it sometimes. People who don’t understand think quitting is just a mildly unpleasant experience that lasts a couple of days. It’s not. Nicotine withdrawal is a horrible thing to go through and quitting smoking is absolutely an ordeal. I’m not being dramatic.
To quit, someone has to be ready to quit or it will never work. Nagging your mom or staying on her about it won’t work. Instead, just gently tell her you love her, that her smoking worries you, that you’ll back off but you’d like to see her get start taking steps toward quitting. For me, I had to view tobacco as the enemy, something who’s influence had to be overcome and defeated, not as a friend that I had to say goodbye to and would miss. That may help your mom.
November 7th, 2009 at 9:35 pm
my mom smoked during all 3 pregnancies with us kids! She finally stopped because her husband was trying to quit and he told her he needed her to stop in order for him to, she said she should but after she was goin to start again. She used the patch. Thank God that she never happened to smoke again. because 10 years after she stopped she kept having chest pains. After 6 weeks of this she finally went to the dr, it turns out that over 75% of her heart was clogged, she could have easily has a heart attack and we would have never known till it was too late. Within the month she was having open heart surgery! It was really scary! that’s when I myself stopped smoking.
I married a smoker and the only way he quit was when i became pregnant, he got on the patch and that helped.
Good luck I hope the best for you! Have you just told her how you feel and that you are worried to loose her?